FRIENDS IMPORTANT PART OF LIFE

Out of everything I have been through in my life, and trying to make sense of who are my true friends or not and among everything else, It is a hard thing to for some to make sense of it all. In life you will encounter so many different types of people and you will meet all sorts of people, but not everyone will be your friend. You just talk to people, not knowing their name or where they come from. It happens in spontaneous moments when you’re out in public, when you are traveling and people in school, work, or other places. Some people come into your life for a few minutes, you will meet and talk to someone for an hour or half an hour or whatever the case maybe, and then you part your ways. It’s happened to me a lot and it is pretty cool that way too. You talk to someone and then you never see them again, but I remember once talking to someone at a coffee shop and then I saw that same person again 3 weeks later. We ended up coming in at the same time. I am a person who never forgets faces and who never forgets whom I have spoken with in person. She remembered me too. We had a few minutes conversation and that was it, and we parted our ways. We haven’t seen each other since, but maybe we will again. It is incredible how things happen in such a way where people who can relate to things end up meeting and talking, but then never really become friends. I love spontaneity and things that just happen without planning. I feel that is one of the best ways to go.

You sort of have a gut instinct in you when the time is right and when the person is right to make friends with them. People have this feeling all the time when a person is right to ask their name and have a friendship with them. It has happened to me I am on my travels somewhere, you automatically feel, that person is appealing and you take a look in someones eyes and you see fake or real, and when you can really understand each other and relate, that is the type of friends you need. When you can relate to each other and when you can be there for each other in good times and in the bad, when you can have many things in common, share each others feelings, confide into each other. It the best type of friendships to have. Not so much the quantity of friends, but the quality of the relationship you have with your best friend or your closest friends. Its one special thing you all have in common together that nobody else will really understand your inside jokes, your humorous personalities, your outlook on life, the common interests, and finding a solid foundation to build your trust among your friends. It is always a good idea to really analyze and to really get to know people before you really jump into friendships quickly. Give it time to become best friends, or very close friends.

The worst thing you can do to someone is replace them, and feeling replaced by others and tossed to the side. Some people find good friends for a year or 2 or 3, and then you become an old part of their life, so then they jump into new friendships and toss you like yesterdays newspaper in the recycling bin. That is how I feel sometimes and it is not a good feeling. Find someone who will be by your side to understand you and your feelings and who will stay friends with you forever and ever and not leave your side after a year to 3 years of friendship. It is a crummy thing you can do to someone and that is not a good trait. Unless that person is not who you thought you knew and if things happen that are not good, then that is okay, but when you know you have not done anything to hurt someone and when you know you haven’t ever said a mean thing to that person or people, and get shafted, it is not a good thing. People need to realize that doing this is not good.

Be faithful and loyal with friendship, that will strengthen yourself and good habits will always be remembered. Do yourself a favour and choose friends wisely who will go to the ends of the earth for you and then naturally people will help each other and everything will fall into place. Just believe and do it. All the best in everything.

 

A letter to my future self.

Some days are hard. Some days are frustrating. Some days you don’t feel like talking to anyone. Some days you want to dig yourself in silence. But most days there will be something or someone that will give you a reason to keep going and not loose hope. And that is the exact reason why you’ve got this far in life.

This is not exactly a motivational letter. It is an analysis report of your life. You might think that it was luck or coincidences in the past that have got you till here, but that’s not entirely true. But, here is a chance to make a better person out of yourself and a better life for the many days yet to come.

When you were a kid your mistakes were blamed on your immaturity, as a teenager your lessons were named hormonal changes, but as an adult your mistakes are your lessons. So, it’s always good to revise your previous chapters. To be thorough with the basics. They just help you understand the new ones better.

Begin each day with what you like doing the most, it makes the whole day better. I know that starting your day with a good workout brings life into you. Try and not to miss it. Also, make an effort to make someone smile in the morning. You’re your best self then. And end each day with a thankful heart even if the day wasn’t the way you expected it to turn out.

Most importantly be good to the people who’ve been good to you, for whatever reason they might have been. It will only fetch you good in return. I know you’re a good person; you’ve done well for yourself. Keeps it going. If you ever get stuck somewhere don’t worry cause every lock has a key to it and if doesn’t you can always break in.

So keep that smile on always. Take care.

જીવનના સાત પગલા
1) જન્મ———-એક અણમોલ સોગાદ છે, જે ભગવાનની ભેટ છે.
(2) બચપન——-મમતાનો દરિયો છે, પ્રેમથી ભરિયો છે, જે ડૂબી શક્યો તે
તરિયો છે.
(3) તરુણાવસ્થા—-કંઇ વિચારો, કંઇ આશાઓ નો પહાડ છે,મેળવવાની
અનહદ આશ છે, લૂટવાની તમન્ના છે.
(4)યુવાવસ્થા——બંધ આંખોનું સાહસ છે, જોશછે…ઝનૂન છે, ફના
થવાની ઉમ્મીદો છે,..કૂરબાની ની આશાઓ છે,
લૂટાઇ જવાની ખ્વાહિશ છે.
(5) પ્રૌઢાવસ્થા—–ખૂદને માટે કંઇ ન કરી શકતાં મેળવીને આપવાની પણ
ખૂશી છે, કુટુંબ માટે કુરબાન થવાની જીજીવિશા છે.
(6) ઘડપણ——–વિતેલા જીવનનો સરવાળો છે,મારા આપણાનો વહેવાર
છે, જેવું વાવ્યું હતું તેવું લણવાનો સમય છે.
(7)મરણ———–જીન્દગીની કિતાબ ખૂલશે, નાડીએ-નાડીએ કર્મ તૂટશે,
પાપ-પૂણ્યનો મર્મ ખૂલશે, કર્મ-ધર્મનો હિશાબ થશે,
સ્વર્ગ-નર્કનો માર્ગ થશે, પોતાનાનો પ્યાર છૂટશે.

સાત પગલા પૂરા થશે…..

 મિત્રતા

 મિત્રતા તો હૃદયનો સંબંધ છે.
સાચી મિત્રતા એ તો એક છોડ જેવી છે જે ધીમેથી વધે છે. પછી વિરાટ વૃક્ષ થઈ જીવનભર તેની શીતળ છાંયા આપે છે.

કલાઉટ મેમેટે કહ્યું છે કે ‘મિત્રો તરબૂચ જેવા હોય છે. કારણ શું?
કારણકે, ઉત્તમને શોધવા બધાનો સ્વાદ ચાખવો પડે છે.’

મહાન વિચારક સોક્રેટીસે પણ કહ્યું છે કે ‘મિત્ર બનાવતા પહેલા સો વખત વિચારો અને મિત્ર બનાવ્યા પછી તેને કાયમ માટે ટકાવી રાખો.’

ખલિલ જિબ્રાને કહ્યું છે કે, ‘જેની સાથે તમે મોજ માણી હોય તેને તમે કદાચ ભૂલી જાઓ, પણ જેની સાથે તમે આંસુ સાર્યા હોય તેને હરગિજ ના ભૂલતા.’

સંત તુલસીદાસે પણ કહ્યું છે કે, ‘બિપતિકાલ કર સતગુન નેહા, શ્રુતિ કહ સંત મિત્ર ગુન એહા.’
દુ:ખમાં પણ સાથ આપે તે મિત્રનો ગુણ છે. મિત્રતા તો એક રેશમી ઋણાનુંબંધ છે. એક ઉત્તમ અનુભવ છે. મૈત્રી એ તો શીતળ-મધુર છાંયડો છે.
મૈત્રી એ તો જીવનની મોટી સૌગાત છે. મિત્રતા કોની સાથે કરવી? ક્યારે કરવી? કેમ કરવી? અને કોની સાથે ન કરવી?
મિત્રો, તેનું કોઈ ગણિત નથી હોતું, કે તેની કોઈ વિશિષ્ટ તિથિ નથી હોતી. મિત્રતા તો ક્ષણવારમાં થઈ જાય છે. મિત્રતા તો હૃદયનો સંબંધ છે

                                                   Wait Wait and Wait 

As I wait for the moment

Each one takes a leap forward

There is stillness in the air

It is like never before, as always.

My head is running at a speed of 100 questions a minute

While my heart just skipped a beat

When will the calm winds blow through the soul?

When will the jitters blow away the restlessness?

Keeping myself occupied with thoughts

Will I go blank when the moment arrives?

One by one I wash them away

By putting them down on paper as I wait

Now drenched in confusion

I look around at faces all pale

All lips talk the same with impatience like red lipstick they stay

Last few breaths till the moment arrives

Clasping my hands I say it’s going to be alright.

 Strange world…

 

 People meet… people part away… but many times you end up together by chance. People call it fate, destiny or pure coincidence but truth is we live in small strange world where what goes around comes back.

Have you ever looked at a picture and seen a stranger in the background. Doesn’t it make you wonder, how many strangers have pictures of you? How many moments of other peoples’ lives have we been in? Were we a part of someones life when their dream came true? Or were we there when their dreams died. Did we keep trying to get in, as if we were somehow destined to be there? Or did the shot take us by surprise. So many times we are a big part of someone’s life, and not even know it. We make them happy, we make them sad, we make me laugh and more often than we want make them cry. Every word, every step, every action has a repercussion on someone else life. For which we need to accept life for what it has given us. For what it is.

We deny that we’re tired; we deny that we’re scared; we deny how badly we want to succeed. And most importantly, we deny that we’re in denial. We only see what we want to see and believe what we want to believe, and it works. We lie to ourselves so much that after a while the lies start to seem like the truth. We deny so much that we can’t recognize the truth right in front of our faces. Lies may help us succeed but never in the long run. It is such a strange world out there where people only accept lies. And where no matter how much something is hurting us, sometimes letting go hurts even more. But these scars are the sign of a competitor.

People maybe strange, you may get strange feelings from them, strange things may happen to you and sometimes strange may seem normal because the world is a strange place. So be the lion in the fight. For just because you didn’t win the fight doesn’t mean that you don’t know how to roar.

 HAPPILY EVER 

Ask most people what they want out of life and the answer is simple…to be happy. Maybe it’s this expectation though, the wanting to be happy, that just keeps us from ever getting there. Maybe the more we try and will ourselves to states of bliss, the more confused we get. To the point where we don’t recognize ourselves. Instead we just keep smiling, trying like hell to be happy people we wish we were.

I am very happy with my life. I am very happy with my journey till here as well. I have made mistakes, I have made bad decisions, I have had my downside but I am happy for it because that is what has got me to the state I am in at the moment. I used to constantly expect more from my life, I was never content with what I have ever. Every time I achieved something, the moment of happiness used to be short lived and time again think that I haven’t done much in my life. There is so much more to see, to know, to learn, to accomplish, how am I going to do all that? In the bargain I lost my happy moment lamenting over something yet to happen. Challenges definitely help me grow, become a better person, live a happier life. Only when I go ahead with a challenge do I realize the true motive of going through with it. And if I end up embracing a challenge for too long, not wanting to let go of the happy state. That’s when the happiness gets replaced by expectation and eventually remorse.

But now, I have realized that happiness is not in the number of challenges one takes or the tougher the challenges one is put through. Happiness is something that has been there all along, not in our dreams or hopes, but in the known, the comfortable, and the familiar. Hence it is wrong to say, do what makes you happy. But instead say, live what keeps you happy.