A Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or
a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you
will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON . . . It is
usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have
come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you
with guidance and support, to aid you physically,
emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a
godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason
you need them to be.

Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an
inconvenient time, this person will say or do something
to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.

What we must realise is that our need has been met, our
desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you
sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.

When people come into your life for a SEASON . . .
Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount
of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things
you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional
foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the
person, and put what you have learned to use in all
other relationships and areas of your life. It is said
that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.

Autistic Child!

In my camp, I've encountered an unusual child ( lets call him J. He's 6years old. I was wondering if you have encountered or heard of a similar pattern of behavior.

Most of the day, J sits by himself reading, with a book very close to his face and ignores the other children. Sometimes he paces back and forth while staring at the ground. On more than one occasion, he was standing looking at the ground when I entered the room, and when I said hello, he screamed and began pacing back and forth.

One time, he entered the room I was in, holding a pencil and notebook. I was at a desk drawing and asked him if he'd like to join me. In a sad tone of voice, he said he wouldn't know what to draw. I said I could give him an assignment - to draw his dream house. He said he wasn't interested, but still stood near me. I suggested drawing the animal that could beat any other animal in a fight. He smiled a little and said that that is a little bit like what he draws, and showed me some incredible drawings he'd done of soldiers in elaborate suits of armor.

He also told me that he likes to create codes and new languages, but has nobody to share them with. He sounded so incredibly sad.

J had previously attended a school for students with developmental disabilities, but his parent's haven't shared his medical or educational history with the staff of the program I work with. Staff members tell me that J has come a long way, that for the first few months at the program, J rocked back and forth in the corner, and would not speak to any of the students or staff.


From a distance, J's behavior resembles behaviors associated with autism spectrum disorders, but he seems to be very sad, and aware of social cues - possibly hyper aware. autism

I've never encountered this behavior in a young person before, and was wondering if young J fit any known phenotype. He seems to gradually be coming out of his shell, the staff at the program are committed to supporting him him, and he is gradually developing friendships with some of the other students.

I was wondering if there is a term for his sensitive yet withdrawn behavior, and if anyone could recommend resources that might be helpful.

I Have Such Wonderful People In My Life

The people in my life are amazing. They really, truly are so fantastic. My friends, my family, the other people in my life I am so lucky.

I know so many amazing people who are involved with so many amazing things. They are wonderful for so very many reasons — for being fierce activists but also for being great friends, for what they do for the world and for what they do for me. Little things, like taking the time to say goodnight to me, even if it might mean the cross walk sign will turn to “don’t walk.” Offers of help and assistance when I’m freaking out about something. Posting supportive comments on my blog and on Facebook. Sending me a video just to say hi and that they’re thinking about me.

It’s easy, sometimes, to focus on the ways in which people don’t understand — the ways in which they aren’t supportive, or are hurtful, or don’t seem to see me. But focusing on that diverts energy from thinking about the ways in which they really are fantastic. Yes, confrontation is sometimes needed (Yes, having conversations about difficult topics can be necessary. Calling people on their privilege (and checking one’s own privilege) no one’s perfect (least of all me), and I would do well to remember the good times as well as the upsetting things.

It’s easy, sometimes, to stress about how far away from me many of the people about whom I care live (or how far away they will be shortly). But then I am reminded that geographical proximity doesn’t mean everything. There are people to whom I am closer now (in a figurative sense) than

There are so many fantastic people in my life. There are so many things people have done, large and small, that have brightened my days and made me smile. I always remember that as well, or as often, as I should. However, I was reminded of that today, and so I decided to post about how really fabulous the people I know are. Hugs and smiles for everyone who r dpart of my life!

Thank you & Cheers!

Silence!

Silence

Silence is a word that’s familiar to all. But do we know what silence is or sounds like?

Silence does not merely mean being quiet. Not speaking is the physical action we take in order to let silence enter our lives. Silence can be described as the pause between two words. Silence is very versatile, and it can take on many forms.

Silence can be quiet.

Silence can speak volumes.

Silence can be still.

Silence can be peaceful.

Silence can be unbearable.

Silence can be enlightening.

Silence can be loud and sometimes really deafening.

Silence can be hostile, silence can be friendly, silence can be hurting, silence can be healing.

Silence can be frightening, silence can be soothing.

Silence can be angry, silence can be loving.

Silence can be so much more than just a mere absence of sound.

Many of us find it difficult to remain silent for long stretches of time. Even if we are not chattering away nineteen to the dozen to somebody else in the vicinity or on the phone- our minds are chattering away to us. Actually it is this chattering mind that we all must learn to silence. It is a difficult thing to do because the mind does not like to be tamed. But if you master this art of silencing the mind- you will master your destiny.

In his book titled “In the Sphere of Silence”, Vijay Eswaran says “From the time we are born, there is a continuous din that hits and assails our senses. It never ceases even when we are asleep. It is a din that cocoons us so much so that we stop hearing. And even as we stop, we can still hear the din but not the silence.”

All the wise men that have walked this earth have said the same thing in different ways- they all recommend getting in touch with our inner selves. The only way to get in touch with that part of us is through meditation. Where we must silence the chatter of the mind, so that we can listen to the voice of the divine, the voice of silence. Some of us avoid meditating because we cannot bear the silence, some try and give up the practice because it is too difficult to train the mind.

Most people feel a sense of restlessness, or a void, but they do not know what it is that they feel is lacking in their lives. Some feel it is lack of a relationship with another. They may flit from one bad relationship to another, some feel it is a lack of money- some may have it all but still may find themselves seeking “something”.

We rush through life not knowing what we seek. Many of us actually fear the silence because we do not know what it will tell us, but only if we paused to listen, we would find that the silence reveals to us what it is that we are seeking. if only we realized the power of silence!

Thank you

Friendship means a lot to me....................

Friendship is not something of the marketplace. Friendship is one of those rare things which belong to the temple and not to the shop. But you are not aware of that kind of friendship, you will have to learn it.Friendship is a great art. Love has a natural instinct behind it; friendship has no natural instinct behind it. Friendship is something conscious; love is unconscious.

A friendship is possible only between two empty boats. Then you are open to the other, inviting to the other, then you are constantly an invitation, come to me, enter me, be with me.How can you be friendly? With the ego there is no possibility of friendship. Then friendship is just a mask. The real nature of life is that of the jungle: the big fish goes on eating the small fish. Even if you pretend to be friendly, that is just show, strategy, diplomacy. Nobody can be a friend here unless the ego disappears. Once the ego disappears the whole life has a quality of friendship, of love. Then you are friendly, simply friendly — and to everybody, because there is no problem. You are not trying to be the first, so you are not more a competitor. this is real dropping out.

Friendship is the purest love.It is the highest form of love where nothing is asked for, no condition, where one simply enjoys giving. One gets much — but that is secondary, and that happens of its own accord.Friends never possess each other. The most fundamental thing in friendship is to give freedom to the other to be himself. There is a trust, there is no need to dominate the other; there is no need to chain him — through conditions — for tomorrow. Between two friends only one thing exists that bridges them, and that is trust; but it does not bind them.

Friendship has its own beauty, and if you can enjoy it, it is better than a love affair. A love affair is always jumpy. There are moments of happiness but they are few and far between. There are also many miserable moments. A friendship is a more solid thing; moves on. plainer ground. Friendship has a deeper equilibrium than love.

Friendship means that you have made somebody else more important than yourself; somebody else has become more precious than you yourself.

It Takes Courage

It takes Courage to care about each member of the family and the struggles they face!

It takes Courage to care about friends and the daily test they encounter. To let them know you will stand by them through each struggle.

It takes Courage to complete each commitment you make toward others.

It takes Courage to confront the weaknesses in your life and be willing to address needed changes

It takes Courage to confess your thoughtless words or neglectful actions toward a person you love.

It takes Courage to proclaim your faith and convictions to people who are judgmental.

It takes Courage to live each day with Integrity.

It takes Courage to respect others when others show little or no respect for you!

It takes Courage to focus on what remains rather than what you've lost

It takes Courage once you recognize that life is a test and your willing to accept the everyday challenges.